missed again...

No confirmation call from Sprout's bio mom today...

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Well, Sprout had a visit today.  4 hours unsupervised with his bio mom and whoever she was with.  The agency worker asked me to transport there (hubby did) and that means that no one checked her apartment to see if there was food or any unauthorized people there.  I am getting to the point where I am nervous to let him leave me for visits.  She is reckless.  The agency worker seems to believe that bio mom has turned over a new leaf.  (Insert eye roll here @@) "She said she's been going a rough patch (with her boyfriend who doesn't beat her??)  but she'll start calling again for visits.  Yippee....  :/

On a worse note there WILL be a pris0n visit next week...3 hours away :*( 

Missed visits, new baby

Sprout's bio mom did not call for a visit yesterday (Wednesday).  So she missed over a month in visits and called once (last Friday) for a visit.  Now she's missed 2 visits already this week. 

I called the county worker to find out what the next steps are while we wait for T*PR.  She told me that the new baby bio mom is carrying is NOT fathered by her current boyfriend  :X

The new baby daddy is currently incarcerated (for beating up bio mom, I THINK) and the guy she is with now treats her very good.  There is no d0mest!c v!0lence and he has even offered to pay for her housing (since she missed her mental health appointment she LOST her subsidized housing).  She can keep her apartment but now has to pay the FULL $575 a month instead of the $6 a month (that is not a typo...she paid $6 a month).  Anyway, he has offered to pay her rent (supposedly he is not living there) IF she goes on a job interview.  Not sure how to process this new information.  I originally thought that this new guy was the baby daddy and since he drove, had a job and was still with her after 4 months that HE would be willing to take the new baby.  Bio mom told the county worker that the dirtbag guy who beat her up is the father and since she did that it is now documented.  The next few months should be fun...intense but fun. 

Trying hard to wrap my mind around this whole situation.  Sprout has NO relationship with his bio father.  He has spent a total of less than 2 supervised hours with him in his short 19 months.  To make the 3 hour drive (one way) then have to go all through security to sit with a virtual stranger...SO not fair.  I am kind of glad that Sprout will have no memory of having to do this.  I feel like we are close enough to the end that I can relax but far enough to make me wonder how long this is going to take.  The county had 90 days to file TP*R paperwork.  That 90 days is up August 21st.  We are so close...not sure what the process is.   I know that after the paperwork is filed there will be a court date scheduled for around 2 weeks from then.  The bio's will have the chance to surrender then.  Not sure what they're thinking right now.  The judge ordered the county to file the termination paperwork so I think it would kind of pointless for the bios' lawyers to advise them to appeal.  The case would be heard by the same judge.  I still don't know how far along bio mom is in her pregnancy or how that will affect her decision.  In the past, she has surrendered her rights to the current child in hopes to parent the new baby.  Also, still not sure who the new baby daddy is.   If you know me in real life, I am THE MOST impatient person EVER!! I am the type of person to read the last page of the book to find out how it ends.  God is most definitely refining that aspect of my life.   I am beginning to realize that I can't save them all.  I know that certain situations will be put in my path so that I can make a difference and I am made aware of others so I can pray.  This most definitely has been one incredible journey and with my sweet boy in my arms I would not change a thing.

Not sure WHAT to think...no call, no visit for Sprout today.  When the agency worker called he said that he is scheduling a visit for next week for Sprout's bio dad...yep...in Pr!sOn!! Just to clarify, this is the same bio dad who had his mother call me to tell me that he was surrendering his rights!!!  2 months ago!!! 

Road trip with the agency worker...yeah...  :/ 

Unsupervised :(

She called.  There was a 4 hour UNSUPERVISED visit.  Last week, the county worker had mentioned that if she goes an extended period of time without seeing him, maybe they should bring the visits BACK to D*S*S and keep them supervised.  I brought this up to the agency worker...  Nope, because they HAVE to prove reasonable efforts in court for T*P*R.  So, my boy was subject to a visit with his bio mother UNSUPERVISED because of a legality.  There was NO WAY for the agency worker to 'pop-in' because she doesn't have to stay home.  So I have NO CLUE WHO she was with or WHAT she was doing. 
I am a bit frustrated...can you tell!?!?   

4 weeks straight...missed visits

Dear Sprout's Bio Mom,
              Today you missed another chance to see your son.  Today marks 4 weeks straight of missed visits.  You are missing so much. 
             
             He is starting to talk more and expressing his adorable 19 month-old personality.  He scrunches up his face and gives the best kisses.  He is firm in his answer of 'no' when he doesn't want to do something.  He can give hugs now...I'm sure he wasn't doing that last time you saw him.  In the morning, He stands and waits in his crib and makes quiet noises until I come and get him.  He sings to himself.  He has the best baby morning breath.  His hair is growing in and the sun has been making it a bit lighter...just like yours.  You're missing his little feet running this crazy run when someone is chasing him.  He LOVES to hear his own voice and loves to watch himself make silly faces in the mirror.  He loves to use his tongue to make silly 'boy' noises and then giggles because it makes his mouth itch.  He loves to read and look through the pages of each book he has.  He can make most of the farm animal sounds and even knows what the cricket 'says'.  He is so smart.  His smile lights up the room and his giggle is contagious.  He loves to ride the tractor, swing high on the swings and kick his chubby little feet in the pool.  He LOVES when the sprinkler system kicks on at the end of the day and runs through screaming and laughing while he gets soaking wet.  He loves the bath and loves his bed.  He loves to be snuggled and sung to.  He likes to be rocked and melts into my arms.  He likes to sleep in his bed with his Ba*rney doll and even though he sometimes wakes up at night he will fall back asleep as long as he knows you're I'm there. 

You're missing it all...

No call, no visit for Sprout again today. 

No call, no visit for Sprout today. Big surprise...huh!?!  The county worker came this morning to go over what is happening with the TP*R.  Seems like bio dad just might get visits while he's in jail.  Bio mom is MIA and supposedly has no interest in surrendering.  This could take a LONG time if neither of them surrender their rights.   

Very discouraging... 

No call, no visit today.  That's a total of 7.  Equivalent to more than 2 weeks in visits.  The agency worker said that maternal g-ma called and said that bio mom is sick and 'someone needs to talk to her'.  Ya think!??!

The county worker will be here on Friday for a home visit and to discuss the T*P*R.  They are 1/2 done with it.  We're on day 50 of 90...

No call, no visit for Sprout today.  Sounds like the agency worker is heading over to bio moms house to see what's going on.  Sprout is happy as a clam today.  Really glad he's staying home :) 

Sprout:  (standing on a chair)

Me:  Please get down.  I don't want you to get boo boo's. 

Sprout:  grunts  (What he really means is "can't make me...can't make me!")

Me:  You need to sit down right now.

Sprout:  grunts again.

Me:  :::gets up from chair:::

Sprout: HUGE SMILES...

Me:  Please sit down like this so you'll be safe.

Sprout:  Yet mom.  (His version of 'yes, mom')


Can I even tell you how much I LOVE this boy!!???!

back from vacation...missed visits

We're back from vacation.  Prior to leaving, bio mom missed 4 visits.  We left on a Friday and we were gone for the Monday and Wednesday visits.  Well, she knew we returned today and there was no call so no visit.  The agency worker stopped by for a home visit with the agency supervisor and filled us in on some details of what we're waiting for while the county is writing up the TP*R papers.  Nothing new.  As for now, we are just waiting for either bio mom to surrender or it could be much longer if she really is taking us to court.  Not sure if she realizes how it looks that she's missed 5 consecutive visits and is still claiming that she wants 'her son' back...