Visits and Doddle update

Bio mom missed last Friday's visit. She didn't call to confirm a ride and she didn't show up. The worker moved from CP*S to foster care and hasn't dealt with this level of incompetence. I giggle at her reactions sometimes :) Anyway. The worker called bio mom and showed up at her residence. She asked for the W*I*C checks or Doodle's formula. Bio mom claimed it was at a friends house and the worker brought her to get it. In addition to the checks and formula, she also picked up some (ill-fitting) clothes, diapers and pacifiers. (Doodle is in 6-9 or 12 mo clothing. Everything was newborn or 0-3)

Monday's visit was great except for the fact that bio mom's boyfriend is not allowed into the visit with Doodle because he is not the bio dad.  Bio mom wasn't very happy with that. Doodle was fussy and cried most of the time. I gave bio mom a travel can of formula so she can bring it back and forth to visits and feed Doodle.  She gave it back to me at the end of the visit saying she doesn't think she'll remember it every visit. 
I'm trying here. There's only so much I can do here. 

Doodle is doing great. Back on a routine and so smiley. Sleeping better than she was but still not great...yet. I can dream :)

Cancelled...

After ALL the complaining about ME..you'd think the bios would want to see Little Mighty as much as possible. But they cancelled AGAIN.  This is the 4th visit in a row ((2/6, 2/9, 2/11 and today, 2/13).  The county worker was going to supervise the visit. She planned to pick up Bailey after school and bring her and Little Mighty back to their house. Bio mom agreed to this yesterday. 

Let me back track. Even though Monday and Wednesday's visits were cancelled, the agency worker was trying to work with bios to find a time that is good for everyone.  She couldn't make the usual Friday visit work due to scheduling conflicts and they (the bios) were ok with not seeing their son this week.  The county worker called me very upset stating that the bios HAVE TO have visits offered at THEIR convenience because she didn't want to hear in court that they say they're denied promised visits with their son.  So the county worker was supposed to supervise today's visit.  She just called me very upset that they bios called to cancel this morning.  She thinks that the bios don't want Bailey to see Little Mighty and this is her way to control that.  I guess we'll see for Monday. 

Anyway, the county worker just asked if we are pre-adoptive.  Um, I said yes...

(Realistically, we have to make it until October without Bailey and Winter coming into care to even entertain the thought of adopting.  But it was nice of her to ask) :)

What are they hiding?

Snow day here in NY today.  Kids are home.  I got a call this morning from the agency supervisor.  She said that they cancelled the visit for Little Mighty today.  I asked if it would be rescheduled and she said that she will not rush to reschedule it because bio mom called saying that Bailey has strep but I cant help but think she's not contagious after 24 hours and if she was sick on Friday, she should be ok to see Little Mighty.  Then I'm thinking that maybe bios don't want Bailey to see Little Mighty OR that bios don't want the agency workers see BAILEY for some reason.  What are they hiding? Last Friday's visit was cancelled when Bailey would have been able to see her little brother and now today, another chance to visit...is cancelled. 

Cancelled

Bios cancelled the visit for today. (1/30) Bio mom called the agency supervisor and told her that Bailey and bio dad are sick.  Little Mighty doesn't know any different, thank God. Monday's visit went well and Wednesday's visit was changed last minute.  It went from a one hour visit/one hour therapy to adding a 2 hour dr's evaluation with the whole bio family.  The bios were forced to feed Little Mighty lunch (which they complain about doing because they 'have no food and I get his WI*C'.  They were also forced to check and change his diaper.   Now, they cancelled today's visit.  Our regular agency worker is out of the office this week so it's been a little confusing.  I'm happy Little Mighty is too little to know the chaos around him.  I'm happy he doesn't hear them complaining about his necessary care.  He is such a happy little man.

Forgot to mention...

At the 3 hour visit on (1/14) I forgot to mention that for some reason the police showed up at bios house sometime between 11 and 12.  They wanted to question bio mom. Still haven't found out exactly why but the man who transported Little Mighty back home didn't find it important enough to mention to me.  I found out because I listen when people talk.  Not sure why the transporter didn't tell me but I did ask the family specialist and she said that the police had some questions for bio mom regarding the original neglect charge.  Not sure of anything will come from it...

 

Not sure what to think...January 19, 2015

This past week has been full of swings and turns...nothing out of the ordinary for foster care but nothing like I thought this case would go. 

Monday, January 12- Little Mighty's bios cancelled the visit so they could go to court on the original neglect case.  Visit was rescheduled. 

Wednesday, January 14-  The visit from Monday was rescheduled for today.  From 9am to 10am.  Regularly scheduled visit from 10 to 11am and O/T from 11 until 12am.  He came home FILTHY.  I have been to bios house twice.  It was immaculate.  Not sure where he got so dirty.  Also, his diaper was leaking by the time he came home because no one changed him.  

Friday, January 16- Visits are now in the afternoon so Bailey can visit with Little Mighty.  I got a call 15 minutes before the worker was supposed to be at my house telling me that the visit was cancelled because they had a family social event to go to.  I was told by the family specialist that bios were asking for more time with Little Mighty earlier in the day and they were told that if they keep up with visits and everything keeps going well, they would extend visits.  Then they cancelled.  Go figure. 

Monday, January 19-  No visit today because of the holiday.  No complaints from me.  

Little Mighty is pulling himself up to stand but he has no danger awareness so he lets go and falls.  It is very scary to watch him fall.  So far, no injuries.  THANK GOD!! He said his first word on Saturday (January 17).  He repeated STOP! It was cute.  He is such a happy boy!  

Busy...

This precious baby girl is stealing our hearts.  Caring for her has been a full time job but she is such a joy.  Her smile is just beautiful and she is so social!  It seems that she is eating very often.  Her feeds are every 3 hours but it's taking anywhere from 1 to 1 1/2 hours to feed her.  She has very low muscle tone so I expect she'll qualify for speech, occupational and physical therapy.  At the last consignment sale I sold all of my baby equipment so I have had to shop.  We haven't had a baby girl here since 2009 (Daisy) so I have had to shop for clothes too.  I forgot how much fun it is to shop for pink!  The agency worker has set up visits for Thursdays so we'll how that goes. 

One day...

Maybe one day I won't sit and stress the night before a visit.  Sitting here wondering if she'll call to confirm...