Little Mighty's case is going nowhere fast. I spoke to the county worker (who is the 'horse's mouth', so to speak) She is leaving to go work for CPS. I wanted to know what the bios had to do towards reunification. She said they had to take parenting classes, mental health counseling, they have to understand the diagnosis of FAILURE TO THRIVE. They have to attend substance abuse counseling and dr's appointments for Little Mighty. They have to KEEP visiting with him and stop canceling. They have averaged one visit a week since December...canceling often. They also have to keep Bailey in counseling and follow through on doctor's orders for her. The main worker, Genie, has been supervising the majority of the visits so she is experiencing all kinds of crazy. She is seeing the ups and downs of bio mom and dad. It seems that if one is stable the other is not and vice versa.
Little Mighty is THRIVING! At 15 months old he is over 21 pounds and pulling to stand. He was not even sitting up back in October when he was placed here. He is crawling on all fours instead of doing the worm across the floor. He is pre-talking and babbling. His speech is probably at a 6-7 month age and his gross motor is around 10 1/2 months. I am so proud of his progress.
His bios think that I am the block to him going home. They think that I control the reunification process. Bio mom said yesterday that it's taking too long and the county should just 'take him' because he's never coming home anyway. They want to know why they can't have visits in my home and phone calls. (Usually visits are only held in the foster home if the bios are sane (they are not) and homeless (they are not). Phone calls wouldn't work either because Little Mighty can't speak. And to be brutally honest, it's not worth the 10 minutes of my time every night. I am fed up with them complaining about his clothes and his runny nose (it's winter in NY....EVERYONE has a runny nose). He is eating, sleeping, playing, peeing, pooping, fever free and happy...why would I take him to the dr??? I wish Genie would filter a bit more of the bios opinions.
The easiest part of foster care is taking care of the kids.
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